https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/97642.No_More_Mr_Nice_Guy
- Nice Guys believe that if they are good, giving, and caring, they will in return be happy, loved, and fulfilled.
- DEER is an acronym I use for: Defend Explain Excuse Rationalize. These are all fear-based behaviors used to distract others from focusing on the Nice Guy’s mistakes and “badness
- Shedding Old Skin
- They are not bad.
- They don’t have to do anything to win other people’s approval.
- They don’t have to hide their perceived flaws or mistakes.
- People can love them just as they are.
- TO DO LIST
- If it frightens you, do it.
- Don’t settle. Every time you settle, you get exactly what you settled for.
- Put yourself first.
- No matter what happens, you will handle it.
- Whatever you do, do it 100%.
- If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got.
- You are the only person on this planet responsible for your needs, wants, and happiness.
- Ask for what you want.
- If what you are doing isn’t working, try something different.
- Be clear and direct.
- Learn to say “no.”
- Don’t make excuses.
- If you are an adult, you are old enough to make your own rules. 14, Let people help you.
- Be honest with yourself.
- Do not let anyone treat you badly. No one. Ever.
- Remove yourself from a bad situation instead of waiting for the situation to change.
- Don’t tolerate the intolerable — ever.
- Stop blaming. Victims never succeed.
- Live with integrity. Decide what feels right to you, then do it. 21. Accept the consequences of your actions.
- Be good to yourself.
- Think “abundance.”
- Face difficult situations and conflict head on.
- Don’t do anything in secret
- Do it now. 27. Be willing to let go of what you have so you can get what you want. 28. Have fun. If you are not having fun, something is wrong.
- Give yourself room to fail. There are no mistakes, only learning experiences.
- Control is an illusion. Let go; let life happen
– Collected by Chandra Kishor